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    Have any of you been a stay at home mom for a very long period of time and then gone back to school or work?
    I've been at home for around 20 years and my youngest is going to be a junior in high school next year. He still needs me but not like a little one does. I am at such a cross-roads as to what to do next.
    I'd like a job that has a decent pay without getting a degree. I wouldn't mind going to vocational school or getting certified for something.

    Honestly, after all this time at home and being older now, I am worried that I couldn't keep up at school. All those young whipper-snappers might fly right by me and leave me in the dust.

    I'd love to hear any of your experiences with this kind of situation.

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    Home health aide.

    A lot of them are basically housekeeping and a little companionship. Take Mr Jones shopping, clean up, fix a few meals, clean the bathroom, make the bed.

    You can be clear on what you will and won't do.

    Ideally they have a little course that is about 3 months, home health aide. Just teaches you basics like what to do if they fall, or are bugging you to buy them liquor, stuff like that.

    You are basically being paid to be a "mom".

    " I have had an increasing burden to engage in some down and dirty, street evangelism." March 6, 2010

    Isaiah 6:8 I heard the voice of the Lord, saying: “ Whom shall I send, And who will go for Us?”

    Then I said, “Here am I! Send me.”

    Matthew 22:9 NIV
    'So go to the street corners and invite to the banquet anyone you find.’


    I'm praying for you daily!
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    • #3
      I always thought it would be fun to cut hair or to make something and sell it or remake things that I find and sell them...I like to create but there must be a market. I have been a stay at home mom for 30 years and can't imagine holding down a job with regular hours.

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      • #4
        For me, over 21 years of my life have been spent helping "the blind". I can't imagine working with a boss who can see.

        Lucy, take it from a self-employed - it's a lot of work to make it a living, plus you will probably have to pay your own social security, medicare, and sales tax. Keep records, etc.

        Ron and I are a little "geeky" - we don't mind the accounting; but it's there.

        " I have had an increasing burden to engage in some down and dirty, street evangelism." March 6, 2010

        Isaiah 6:8 I heard the voice of the Lord, saying: “ Whom shall I send, And who will go for Us?”

        Then I said, “Here am I! Send me.”

        Matthew 22:9 NIV
        'So go to the street corners and invite to the banquet anyone you find.’


        I'm praying for you daily!
        I get my Bibles here

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        • #5
          I was a stay at home Mom for 13 years before going to work part time in a deli/bakery. It's hard work but I was able to use cake decorating skills I had learned to turn it into the job I have now which is as a cake decorator. I'm blessed that I enjoy what I do and have been able to do it for as long as I have without burning out or developing carpal tunnel. It pays well enough and I just passed my 20th year of employment at the same place...

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          • #6
            Thanks for the ideas. I had a talk with hubby last night and he tends to feel I should stay home for another year or two until our son is fully independent (driving, working, school). He thought maybe I could volunteer somewhere for a while.
            It's a relief that he's not pushing me out the door but at the same time I feel like I should be training for something so when the time comes I'm ready to work.

            Anyway, looks like I've been given a little reprieve to think about it some more. I really need the Lord to show me what I'd enjoy and be good at. Acts5:41, I don't think I'd be very good at the home health aid position. But wouldn't mind maybe being a medical assistant or maybe drawing blood or doing x-ray. It's just scary to jump into a program after all these years. I feel like my brain cells have shriveled up. lol

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            • #7
              I'll be praying.

              My Dad had never intended to retire, until he was fired from his last job. He loves being at home with Mom now.

              " I have had an increasing burden to engage in some down and dirty, street evangelism." March 6, 2010

              Isaiah 6:8 I heard the voice of the Lord, saying: “ Whom shall I send, And who will go for Us?”

              Then I said, “Here am I! Send me.”

              Matthew 22:9 NIV
              'So go to the street corners and invite to the banquet anyone you find.’


              I'm praying for you daily!
              I get my Bibles here

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              • #8
                Originally posted by OnTheHorizon View Post
                Thanks for the ideas. I had a talk with hubby last night and he tends to feel I should stay home for another year or two until our son is fully independent (driving, working, school). He thought maybe I could volunteer somewhere for a while.
                It's a relief that he's not pushing me out the door but at the same time I feel like I should be training for something so when the time comes I'm ready to work.

                Anyway, looks like I've been given a little reprieve to think about it some more. I really need the Lord to show me what I'd enjoy and be good at. Acts5:41, I don't think I'd be very good at the home health aid position. But wouldn't mind maybe being a medical assistant or maybe drawing blood or doing x-ray. It's just scary to jump into a program after all these years. I feel like my brain cells have shriveled up. lol
                sweet hubby! i think volunteering is a good idea for a transition. it gets you back in a sort of outside the home routine. and back under a role where someone else gets to decide when to come in and what tasks are needed for you to do.

                i think that is the route i'd go. i'm hoping i could get back into retail again, it was hard and the pay was almost insulting at times but since i worked at pet stores and craft shops, i found a way to love going in every day.

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                • #9
                  OntheHorizon, I, too, think the volunteer suggestion is a good one. You can learn a lot that way, while still helping. You could volunteer at a hospital, to see if you think you'd enjoy the medical roles you mention in your recent post. If so, some of the health occupations don't take 'forever' to train for, such as Certified Nurse Assistant (CNA) or maybe the ones you mentioned such as drawing blood for the lab or doing X-rays. Medical jobs are rewarding, because it offers an opportunity to be an encouragement to other people at a time when they need it.
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                  • #10
                    I think your husband is wise. These are still critical years for your youngest and giving him as much time/attention as possible will be good. You'll have plenty of time to focus on new adventures once he is out of the house.

                    Our area has a ministry of feeding the homeless. A meal is prepared at a diff't downtown church each night plus sack lunches need making. They also have almost all volunteers working inside. You may have something like that in your area; try googling "feeding the homeless" or 'ecumenical homeless ministries' and something might come up.

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                    • #11
                      I couldn't imagine being anything other than a housewife.

                      Who says you need to become a career woman because there's no kids at home? You'll have grandchildren soon enough, and you'll want time to spend with them

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                      • #12
                        Stick a toe in the water. Look into your local Community College and try one class that is interesting to you. It is not very expensive. You'll get legitimate college credit and find out if you can keep up with those whipper snappers. If you do it while your child is in school, you won't be taking any time away from him...plus you can do homework together! That can be inspiring to your child. My SIL did it, got her BS degree by the time the kids finished high school. Her kids loved that mom had homework too.

                        If you don't try it, you may regret it forever. If you do try it and don't like it (doubtful) at least you'll know.

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                        • #13
                          What to do after 20 years of being a homemaker
                          Have any of you been a stay at home mom for a very long period of time and then gone back to school or work?
                          I've been at home for around 20 years and my youngest is going to be a junior in high school next year. He still needs me but not like a little one does. I am at such a cross-roads as to what to do next.
                          I'd like a job that has a decent pay without getting a degree. I wouldn't mind going to vocational school or getting certified for something.

                          Honestly, after all this time at home and being older now, I am worried that I couldn't keep up at school. All those young whipper-snappers might fly right by me and leave me in the dust.

                          I'd love to hear any of your experiences with this kind of situation.
                          Hi! Well, I was feeling the same way about 2 1/2 yrs ago. I went to a hospital to train as a phlebotomist (person who draws blood) through a short program (3 months). Was $800.00 & the best thing I've ever done! I have been working in an out patient lab for over 2 yrs & really love it! It pays a little over 13.00/per - not a whole lot, but better than I've ever made. Its a really fun job. I only work a couple of days a week now because I am homeschooling my high school daughter for the first time this yr. - thats a little hard, but worth it! btw, I thought needles/blood would not work for me, but turns out I do just fine. Hope you are able to find something also. ysic

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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by LilyWhite View Post
                            I couldn't imagine being anything other than a housewife.

                            Who says you need to become a career woman because there's no kids at home? You'll have grandchildren soon enough, and you'll want time to spend with them
                            I am with you. I really love being a stay at home mom and now that 2 of 3 are grown , I already have grandkids. My dh is self employed and has been for many years so when he says, "Let's go!" I can just go with him. He wants me home and I WANT to be home. Sometimes I think it would be nice to have some earnings that I created myself but our needs are being met and I have plenty to do to keep me active and happy.

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                            • #15
                              Originally posted by madeNheaven View Post
                              Hi! Well, I was feeling the same way about 2 1/2 yrs ago. I went to a hospital to train as a phlebotomist (person who draws blood) through a short program (3 months). Was $800.00 & the best thing I've ever done! I have been working in an out patient lab for over 2 yrs & really love it! It pays a little over 13.00/per - not a whole lot, but better than I've ever made. Its a really fun job. I only work a couple of days a week now because I am homeschooling my high school daughter for the first time this yr. - thats a little hard, but worth it! btw, I thought needles/blood would not work for me, but turns out I do just fine. Hope you are able to find something also. ysic
                              Really? That sounds like me. My son is homeschooled. He will either do independent study or take classes with our charter school.
                              I am not sure how I'd be with the blood and poking people. What made you decide to give this a shot? (Pun!)
                              Can I ask what kind of school you went to to train for this? Was it very challenging? Was it full time to go to classes and do homework? So many questions!

                              I can totally relate to LiliWhite and Lucy about just staying home and it's nice to know there's support for that also. My husband may also be ok with that.

                              I may worry too much about what others think. I get the feeling some of my family may feel like I'm letting my husband work himself to death while I stay home. I also worry about having a way to help out in the future if my husband can't work in the future.


                              Thank you all for your thoughts and suggestions. I don't have a lot of people to bounce these thoughts off of so I am thankful for your thoughts.

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