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    Guest started a topic Every mans challenge. Struggling. Please pray.

    Every mans challenge. Struggling. Please pray.

    well i've been a member here for a couple years now. i read and re read all the articles here and around the forums but i hardly ever post. But i really am in need of prayer.

    i am a single, 20 year old male and struggling with every mans challenge. and i cant keep myself reframed and perminantly away from it (picture/media on the net of women). I can be self controlled for months, but sometimes only days. and its a loop that no matter how long im out of, i always fall back into. and perhaps some of you can relate.

    i feel so bad, and dirty and shamefull. and i am a youthleader and a helper at church, i feel like i should take myself out of this role because i cannot perminantly walk purely, although i try but just cant. i am burdened, and guilty and feel dirty and shamefull and i just cant seem to bring myself to confession to recieve intersession from another christian/elder about this stuff, i dont even feel like im saved anymore.

    i have been into drugs real heavy and got away from them far far easier than this.

  • DerRickster
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    Here is a website that will help those in sexual bondage. That is what it is. My church went through the series. It was very informative. Addiction is only a symptom of a deeper problem whether it be drugs, alcohol, sex and even religion.

    https://conquerseries.com/

    Take it from me, I have been in bondage for 34 years. It is because of extreme abuse when I was a child. It's a long road ahead to recovery.

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  • Stratosfear
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    You guys got room for one more member in this unfortunate club? I'm 57, and this has been a constant source of shame and embarrassment for me. I have a wonderful wife, and we have been married for 34 years and counting. But this animalistic aspect to my (or, rather, our, since I am apparently not alone) nature has me constantly asking for God's forgiveness. It sometimes happens so frequently I wouldn't be surprised if God has set up my own personal revolving door. Reading the comments in this thread, I am finding the comfort and solace I need to get through it whenever I stumble. Thanks, guys.

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  • J. B.
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    I too struggled with this since years ago. To deny this phenomenon would be a grave lie. Please pray that I am able to leave it behind.

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  • pixelpusher
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    I just edited my hosts file and made all the bad sites point to RRBB! Now you know why I am here so often...





    Not really, lol, don't mean to make light of a rough situation, but that might not be a bad idea, really...

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  • ladon
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    Praying for all my brothers. I took it upon myself to place my bible right up under my computer screen so when the flesh try's to take over i remember who gave his life so that i could be forgiven of all sin.

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  • Florian9
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    Originally posted by Wally View Post
    It is interesting the ratio of views to posts on this thread 402.75 views/post

    The Gun Toter thread is but 112.38.


    Perhaps we can sense how deep and personal this issue is. A very private fail, one that can have devastating effects on family, job, life.

    It is so important for men to have mentors, trustworthy friends, character models, accountability partners.

    The best is when your wife is one of them, but often the gender difference makes it so difficult - even painful.


    And sometimes nothing needs to be said. Temptation is what it is. Battling it and overcoming it by His Spirit is the only way.
    But a friend is often a critical part of the process God uses.

    Someone familiar with our weakness.
    Christ has been there too.


    for all those in this Battle. Find a brother in Christ.


    And Ransomed has posted an excellent tool - seeing things for what they are. Truth is a very powerful tool.
    Yep! Porn is crack... It really is. For those who struggle with it, I've been there too. Most honest men will admit they have also. I was 5 years old when I came across my fathers stash of "playboys", and was totally shocked as you can imagine any "innocent child" might be when viewing those images. Time passed by but the shocking images never went away. I think this is an addiction that seriously needs to be dealt with within the church. Entire marriages and families have been destroyed by the evil that manifests itself in images and movies--totally from the pit of hell....needless to say that the suicide rate is very high for people who engage in porn for "entertainment".
    What God gives for free, Satan always offers at a price...

    Praying for you all who suffer from this disease! Jesus really does love you in spite of all of this!!!! Trust Him!

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  • Wally
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    It is interesting the ratio of views to posts on this thread 402.75 views/post

    The Gun Toter thread is but 112.38.


    Perhaps we can sense how deep and personal this issue is. A very private fail, one that can have devastating effects on family, job, life.

    It is so important for men to have mentors, trustworthy friends, character models, accountability partners.

    The best is when your wife is one of them, but often the gender difference makes it so difficult - even painful.


    And sometimes nothing needs to be said. Temptation is what it is. Battling it and overcoming it by His Spirit is the only way.
    But a friend is often a critical part of the process God uses.

    Someone familiar with our weakness.
    Christ has been there too.


    for all those in this Battle. Find a brother in Christ.


    And Ransomed has posted an excellent tool - seeing things for what they are. Truth is a very powerful tool.

    Leave a comment:


  • LoudRam
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    My porn addiction led me down some very dark roads. There is some good advice in this thread. I would like to add this Jas 4:8 Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands, ye sinners; and purify your hearts, ye double minded.
    Get your sin in the open. Find a brother to be accountable too. Get involved with an addiction based bible study. Sin like this can't live in the light. Get into the Word. The closer you get to God the easier it is to overcome this addiction. Trust me I know. Consider Gal 5:16 This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh.
    Notice what it doesn't say... Don't fulfil the lust of the flesh and you will walk in the spirit. This battle will not be won in the flesh or by trying to do better. This is spiritual warfare and you must fight it using spiritual weapons. When you read about the armor of God the only offensive weapon is the Sword of the Spirit, the Word of God. That's how you beat this. You have to love God more than your sin. Draw close to Him by spending time in His Word and watch the addiction fade. I still struggle but it is so much easier to resist. You can be free. I'm praying for you.

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    If your eye causes you to sin then gouge it out...

    The modern translation of this is to, as the LORD says, "purge the evil that is among you." This means that if your computer causes you to sin, you must get rid of it or put some pretty heavy stops on the sites you visit. If your smart phone causes you to sin, get a traditional cell phone with no access. If you have a DVD collection that causes you to sin, burn it in the fire. If the magazine rack at the grocery store causes you to sin, make a concerted effort to not walk down that aisle and fall into temptation." Make a list of everything that is a weakness for you, and then purge the evil from among you! The enemy wants to blind us to the fact that temptations come from somewhere, and there are often very simple ways of steering clear of them. While you do this, bathe yourself in the Word of God. Stop drinking from those dirty cisterns when you can have Living Water.

    Did you know that women who work in porn often throw up after their scenes are done, or even during them?

    Did you know that these women are at risk for all sorts of sexually transmitted diseases from the things they do? And don't fool yourself, they don't really want to be doing these things. The heart of a woman is to be loved and protected.

    Did you know many of these women are deeply depressed in their personal lives? That they are desperate for true love, the kind of love that only the Good Shepard can give them?

    Consider that every one of these women is someone's sister, mother, daughter, friend, and one of God's truly magnificent creations.

    I think these are helpful things to consider as you battle this horrendous monster that has ruined the lives of so many men and women.



    Originally posted by jemz20 View Post
    well i've been a member here for a couple years now. i read and re read all the articles here and around the forums but i hardly ever post. But i really am in need of prayer.

    i am a single, 20 year old male and struggling with every mans challenge. and i cant keep myself reframed and perminantly away from it (picture/media on the net of women). I can be self controlled for months, but sometimes only days. and its a loop that no matter how long im out of, i always fall back into. and perhaps some of you can relate.

    i feel so bad, and dirty and shamefull. and i am a youthleader and a helper at church, i feel like i should take myself out of this role because i cannot perminantly walk purely, although i try but just cant. i am burdened, and guilty and feel dirty and shamefull and i just cant seem to bring myself to confession to recieve intersession from another christian/elder about this stuff, i dont even feel like im saved anymore.

    i have been into drugs real heavy and got away from them far far easier than this.

    Leave a comment:


  • scrounger
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    Big struggle with me too! It seems that everywhere you look there is reference (in some way) to porn. The sitcom "Friends" is a good example. They often reference to watching porn. Its everywhere! Praying for everyone here that struggles!

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  • On A Journey
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    Eternal Hope, Eternal Joy

    Hi...

    I read your post, and had to respond.

    In Christ Jesus, there is always hope. No one is beyond the scope of His grace, and He said so...

    My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me. I give them eternal life, and they shall never perish; no one can snatch them out of my hand. My Father, who has given them to me, is greater than all; no one can snatch them out of my Father’s hand. (John 10:27–29).

    What a blessed assurance!! God the Father has given us to Jesus His Son. Are there any better hands that we should be in? Be greatly encouraged, brother... we are the precious children of the KING of kings and the LORD of lords.

    You have opened your heart, mind, soul and spirit to Jesus. Because your trust is in Him, He has sealed you with the Holy Spirit against the Day of Judgment... NOTHING can change that.

    Because you do love and follow Jesus, you are under attack by the evil one. There is a way out 'in the day of trouble':

    For in the day of trouble he will keep me safe in his dwelling; he will hide me in the shelter of his tabernacle and set me high upon a rock. (Psalm 27:5).

    This blessing will continue always, and we remain...

    being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus. (Philppians 1:6).

    Have a blessed day!

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  • $teve
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    Just a quick note to allay your fears, no you haven't gone too far. Many Christians, myself included, have backslidden into ugly depths of sin where all appearances would seem have gone too far.

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  • Tscopemaker
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    I'm Worried I went too far

    I had what I thought was a salvation experience a year ago last Jan. where I trusted Jesus for my salvation for the first time.

    However, I have a sin that only men seem to have with the internet and I cannot control it. I also have been sniffing contact cement. I can walk away from it for weeks at a time but I always return to it.

    I feel like I have been cut off, as if the "silver cord has been cut". I ask for forgiveness but I fear it's too late for me, I think I'm doomed for Hell.

    This really frightens me and I can't seem to overcome this, it's a constant stuggle to resist this but I always seem to fail. I fear I'm going insane.

    Is there any hope??

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  • tbrian40
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    Thank you, Wretched for this. I keep visiting a porn site and I am sick of it. It is time to give it to the Lord again. He is my Deliverer and my Salvation! I will endure just as Yeshua has commanded us to do. Praying for everyone here...pray for me.

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