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    Hello all,

    I hope this is in the right section. Has anyone here at RR been set free from internet pornography completely? Is it possible, without relapses? I've seen all the "steps" that have been mentioned to break free (filters, accountability, etc), and I wonder if anyone can offer advice on what works and what doesn't.

    Thank you for any help you can offer and for any prayers you can give as well.

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    Originally posted by regionsteve View Post
    Hello all,

    I hope this is in the right section. Has anyone here at RR been set free from internet pornography completely? Is it possible, without relapses? I've seen all the "steps" that have been mentioned to break free (filters, accountability, etc), and I wonder if anyone can offer advice on what works and what doesn't.

    Thank you for any help you can offer and for any prayers you can give as well.
    I can name 2 things that help tremendously. Get an accountability partner, someone you absolutely will not lie to who will ask you the tough questions. Secondly, get into the Bible, daily, even hourly if it helps. Feed your mind and soul with God's word to crowd out all of the other nonsense.

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    • #3
      www.settingcaptivesfree.com

      Awesome site, it takes 60 days to complete but well worth it.

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      • #4
        Originally posted by regionsteve View Post
        Hello all,

        I hope this is in the right section. Has anyone here at RR been set free from internet pornography completely? Is it possible, without relapses? I've seen all the "steps" that have been mentioned to break free (filters, accountability, etc), and I wonder if anyone can offer advice on what works and what doesn't.

        Thank you for any help you can offer and for any prayers you can give as well.
        Fasting, and prayer will help you break it completely with no relapses...I had a 2 to 3 year long battle with this issue, and could not overcome it, until I started fasting..Since then it hasn't been a problem since..Nothing helped only fasting, and prayer helped me overcome that sin.

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        • #5
          Also well known author, and speaker John Bevere broke his problem with pornography on a 4 day fast..This was in his younger days, I guess..This is recorded in one of his books..I can't remember the name of the book, but it was the one that dealt with being prepared for the judgment seat of Christ...Fasting is a great way to break any type of bondage of sin off of ones life.

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          • #6
            I just quit looking at the stuff.

            I repented of it, I realized how much harm it was doing to me and my marriage and I just asked God for the help to get me through. For me it was just a matter of repentance, I didn't want anything more to do with it, and now I don't.

            Perhaps fasting and all is useful, but this just seems to be a matter of the will to me. Just like forgiveness, it is hard to do, but it can be done. Especially considering that I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

            Just trust God to be faithful, and He is, and just do it.

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            • #7
              Porn is a tough one. I dealt with it for a while myself. I was able to finally quit for good after I begged God to deliver me from this evil.

              Another thing that seemed to help was reminding myself how disgusting it was. I pictured myself sitting there looking at it..cheating on my wife...encouraging the industry to create more porn etc....It disgusting, convice yourself of how disgusting it truly is and it will be easier to stop.

              I guarantee at one point some of the stuff you look at you found disgusting...even if you were a kid. Over time you have compromised your values and justified it in your mind. Make sure every time you even think about looking at porn you feel disgusted.

              You can do it!

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              • #8
                Remove all traces of it from your house. Set up a 'net nanny' on your computer if you have to.

                The temptation may never go away completely, but if it takes some effort to indulge it allows you to think twice.
                The heavens are telling of the glory of God; And their expanse is declaring the work of His hands.
                Day to day pours forth speech, And night to night reveals knowledge.
                (Psa 19:1b-2)

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                • #9
                  Hello regionsteve - Follow-up if I can, are you having any luck? Anything working for you?

                  Felk

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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by Hootmon View Post
                    Remove all traces of it from your house. Set up a 'net nanny' on your computer if you have to.

                    The temptation may never go away completely, but if it takes some effort to indulge it allows you to think twice.
                    Yup, the biggest problem is having it so easily available. The bible tells us to FLEE from temptation.

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                    • #11
                      I used to be neck deep in porn and sex addiction. I was "clean" for almost 3 years, but in the past year have had some struggles again. Those struggles were probably from a combination of things.

                      1.) I lost almost 50 pounds which sent my sex drive through the ceiling and I was not prepared at all for such a change and had some trouble adjusting

                      2.) increased stress at both work and home..I had just gotten promoted at work and was trying to adjust to the increased responsibility

                      I have been counselling with my pastor to work through these things. He told me the porn was nothing more than a coping mechanism I was using to deal with stress and other issues. So we've been working on some of those core issues through prayer and Bible study and as I work through those things,the temptations of porn have decreased.

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                      • #12
                        It is just crazy what technology has done to promote this sin - movies, vcr's, dvd's and now the internet. Next they are working on is holograms.

                        Felk

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                        • #13
                          Nasty stuff. Do whatever you need to do to get it out of your life. If that means yanking your tv out and putting it out at the curb then do it. if you have to throw your computer out then do it. if you have to drive 15 miles out of your way to avoid a porn shop then do it. the stuff will rot your brains. I battled it for years. the birth of my 2 sons caused me to take sides and not mess around with it. I have to have a good filter on my computer and sometimes I get mad because it filters stuff that it does not need to and I have to be humbled and ask my wife to turn it off so I can look at something but I have to tell her what it is I want to look at. (accountibility) she also has parental controls on the tv....not for my kids but for me. It is embarassing but it has been over a year without porn and I gotta tell you it is a great feeling!!!! When I ever feel a relapse I think about the gutter my mind was and no way do I want to go back. I work in an environment where there is rampant immorality and the fact that God has my mind and not porn has helped my marriage stay the course, stay away from other addictions (gamble, drugs,) many of the men I work with are so lost and it seems one of the direct roots is the addiction to lust.

                          Get away from it. It will alter your perception of women. My father was and still is addicted to it and it has destroyed his life so much so that he does not know how to interact with women on any level. I had to throw him out of my families life because he begain to come on to my wife because he can not control his compulsions and will disregard any boundry and risk associated with it to feed his compulsion. Bad stuff. I praise God for his healing work in my life with it. I have a ways to go but God continues to minister to me daily in my walk with him. My deepest prayers brother to you You can have victory in Christ!!!

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                          • #14
                            Wow stonewall fan - that is a great story you tell. What kind of filter are you using on your computer? How did you tell your wife?

                            felk

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                            • #15
                              I never really BATTLED with porn, but I did watch it in my younger days, and even briefly after I was married. Then I decided that it was no good and stopped watching it. Kind of cold turkey. I had "relapses" a couple of times a year, but that too has dwindled.

                              One thought that helped me tremendously to get over the urges that occasionally come:

                              We know the rapture is coming...

                              any day, right?

                              If I get the urge to view porn, I just imagine that trumpet blowing while I'm in the middle of watching that and doing my thing...And you KNOW, one of the biggest questions every believer is going to be asked when we meet each other in heaven will be "What were you doing when the trumpet blew?"

                              Can you imagine eternity living with the shame of "relieving myself with porn" being your answer?

                              Stops me better than a cold shower, that thought.

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